It’s Valentine’s Day!

Love, a beautiful feeling for those who have been lucky and absurd emotion for not so lucky. It’s the day…its THE VALENTINE’S DAY! It’s natural to be all mushy gushy. I believe, there’s nothings wrong with that.

Have ever felt that absolute bliss in seeing someone smile. That strange surge of emotions melting your heart away. The utterly dizzing feel of having butterflies flutter in your stomach. The unimaginable joy of seeing the glance of your love. If yes then you have enjoyed the most beautiful emotion of your life – LOVE. 

Being struck by the painless pinch of cupid’s arrow is priceless. The time you spent wooing or being wooed is simply enchanting. I would love to relive that time. Every time I see him I fall in love with him all over again. You have to enjoy this feeling atleast once in life.

Love is never complex, it’s simple. You just need to be lucky finding your true love at the right time, at the right place and the right person. And trust me when it’s right, you get to know it instantly. You won’t make mistakes about it. Learn to trust your heart. Listen to what it says and you’ll know it. 

So it’s a big lovey dovey Happy Valentine’s Day to you all. 

Enjoy and cherish the love in your life.

Here are some other thoughts on love.

Love vs Arrange

Eternity of love

The Dark Night of Promises 

Alone Doesn’t Mean Lonely, There’s Always A Difference

There are many ways to live life.

Person A: “Poor chap, why does he stay alone, how lonely he must be”

Person B: “But he’s happy…I haven’t seen him complaining ever. He seems to be quite talkative when approached”

See that – the difference between being alone and lonely. Being talkative and a social darling is never a sign of having a better personality. There are people who like to talk less and still, there are people you prefer to stay in their own world. Unless they aren’t a complete social recluse, it would be wrong to treat introverts as lonely, shy good for nothing person. Often people consider introverts to be inferior to their extrovert counterparts. That would be totally wrong!

I read this list by Carl King and loved it because it strikes the cord at the right place. It sums the trials and tribulations an introvert faces, I have often observed

 10 myths about introverts via Carl King Creative:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

[Feature Image By MIR Brand] 

Cajoling Opinions To Work For Good

Opinions, otherwise given are rogue slayers of your actions. They are every bit of hindrance to anybody’s thoughts or actions. Aren’t they? Apparently, it might be a blunt audacity to ignore opinions. But somewhere deep down your heart quickly wants to respond “it would be better if you keep your opinions to yourself.”

But…there is a big clause. Sometimes you need to keep your iron heavy ego aside, make it light as a feather or sink it deep in ocean, listen to what opinions other hold or give, and then consider your actions. It hurts seriously bad, is lethal like a tiny paper cut and oozes blackest venom.

Opinions good or bad are thoughts that cause friction. When friction arises things start to transform – some gain momentum, some evolve, some leap forward and some change completely. But the end result is mostly good and works for the better.

Then again there is a caution to watch – the way your intellect handles opinions. Sometimes opinions are generated by lack of facts, lack of understanding for others, jealousy, intention to harm etc.  Your mind and intellect should be able to filter such opinions and throw them right away.

Life’s got many rules and one rule says…master the art of learning from the good and the bad.

 

[Image Credit – allopinionsarenotequal.com]

I Searched For Happiness

To be #moreprecise before you read, it is not a poem though it may sound like one :).

It was so…..

I searched happiness in things I was made to believe are important in life.
But it did not work exactly the way I thought.

I searched happiness in money. It bought me most of the things, but not a single glint of happiness.

I searched happiness in dreaminess. It brought me the deadliest curses of all.

I searched happiness in loneliness. It brought me darkest of the nights.

I searched happiness in comradeship. It brought me laughter, but in splinters of moments.

I searched happiness in peace and got a moment to think.

Happiness is indeed in harmony that you find inside. You are happy when you know you are happy. You can’t search happiness; you have to pursue it inside your heart, body and soul.

Eternity Of Love Lasts, But Not Our Feelings

For past few days I have been wondering- What’s Love? Silly, and too cliched a question, but everyone once in life asks himself/herself this question. No, I am not in love, though I would love to be. The question just occurred, I am so called writer after all 😉

When you try answering this question it’s all bizarre and dreamy concepts that start coming up. But in essence true love is a bond that doesn’t break. The more you break it, the stronger it gets. The more you run, the closer it comes. The more you shun it, the more it flairs.

Love

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