It is easy to judge people, isn’t it? Without understanding anything we are quick to pass a decree on other person’s actions, thoughts and doings. But we never want people to meet us with the same treatment. Hell Yeah! We justify our actions with strongest conviction, and our heart makes us understand that what we did was right. But no….we won’t justify others doing in the same way. And, we’ll never understand what it’s like to be in other’s shoe.
Have we stopped being humans? I believe, as human, I was born with an innate ability to understand fellow human’s pain, and that he requires sympathy – a succor. Absolutely not a salt laden rub on sore scars. Then why would our heart, mind and soul work in sheer disarray? Contemplating such questions don’t generally get you answers immediately. But here’s what I think.
Probably we have developed wrong concepts about morality and ethics. Do you think both are one and the same things? Well, me too! But that‘s not the case. Both are separate, and yet they both need to be worked out together. While morality is intrinsic, ethics is more of an acquired thing. The difference given here really sums the two clearly.
When the inside meets outside, it is natural to have some friction, some clash. That’s when the real difference starts. Your humane concept (your morality) pulls you in one direction and your ethics in another. Often one might feel there is no discerning power that can differentiate the two, equally justifiable things. But there is and it’s inside us – it’s our subconscious.
When we judge someone’s action, or for that matter our own doings we match it with our morals and ethics. Hypothetically speaking, let say you have a very crucial exam tomorrow and apparently from somewhere you get the question paper. It’s placed right in front of you. So what do ethics say in such a scenario – precisely that, “cheating is not good.” You see that’s something you have acquired. You have heard it from your folks around you and that something you have been made to believe is ideal.
So, what do your morals have to say –???????. There can’t be a fixed answer for it because we form our own morals and it differs from person to person. Few would choose not to cheat because it is against their ethics and morally they feel it’s wrong. Few reckon the ethics, but would be tempted to steal a glance, but just once. Few will keep the ethics aside, and because their morals suggest winning by hook or by crook- they would ultimately cheat. However, the common governing factor would remain –the subconscious. It, the subconscious:
- remains clear for those who didn’t cheat
- would remain guilt laden for the ones who were tempted, or cheated under temptation and,
- would remain absolutely oblivious for those who keep no moral scruples.
That’s the moralist in you and me which conflicts with ethics and forces you to judge people on their action. It’s absolutely normal and human to do this. But often it gets vicious, very vicious. Without thinking the pros and cons or seeing things with a thoughtful take – we pass a judgment on other’s action. There is an intense tendency in us to subject others in the parameters our moral sets and ethics strongly assist it.
So next time before passing a diktat on someone’s action – watch a bit, think a bit and act after your have done your bit.