For past few days I have been wondering- What’s Love? Silly, and too cliched a question, but everyone once in life asks himself/herself this question. No, I am not in love, though I would love to be. The question just occurred, I am so called writer after all 😉
When you try answering this question it’s all bizarre and dreamy concepts that start coming up. But in essence true love is a bond that doesn’t break. The more you break it, the stronger it gets. The more you run, the closer it comes. The more you shun it, the more it flairs.
Though, I am no dictate on ‘Romantic Love’, but I don’t agree with facts like:
- Love happens once or;
- Your first love is best love or;
- You are lucky if your first love is your last love….and so on
Love is a simple emotion which has been made overly complex. You don’t have to be too thoughtful to be in love. If you are, then it’s seldom love. On the contrary, that also doesn’t imply you need to be blind in love.
It is ironic when love seizes to exit between two people. That just can’t be because you were either playing with your emotions or didn’t understand being in Love. It is an indelible feeling which is not meant to evaporate into thin air, just like that. And, ‘nature’ ensured it to be that way.
So why doesn’t eternity of love last forever (in most cases). I figure it this way:
We can subdue our feelings and reasons, and rush to the seemingly greener pastures. Love comes with the same irony. It tends to make us superfluous and dipped in emotions – for the moment. But when that moment is lost, which can, by the way last for days, weeks and even years – we tend to move on. Not talking about infatuations, but love, what it actually was.
The problem also lies in our perception of love. While it matures, our perception about it stays the same. We want the same warm, fuzzy feeling that we get when cupid hits us for the first time – every time. But eventually, everything matures or we can say evolves. Love, too evolves and we are not just ready to accept it.
Though there are many intricacies, but if you keep sticking to your love roots, you’ll never face these issues. You need to be content with your choice and keep sieving your reasons. They tend to clutter with time. Try seeing what is better in your partner. It was the thing that made you drool over him/her and love them above life. If it has rusted with time, try evoking it. And remember the pastures are always greener on the other side, but the dangers are equally gripping.